The only reason “coming out” is still even a thing is because it’s presumed that people are straight until they tell us otherwise. “The Other must identify itself, or else it is decieving us” is a fucked up, dangerous idea.
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So amazing.
This.. so accurately describes me. Except I’ve never been to a strip club, though me and my partner do perve over grrls together a lot on the internet.
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(Picture updated 12/23/11;
Description updated 12/20/11)LGBTQ Identities Part I - Sexual Identities
- Heterosexual: Sexual attraction towards those of a different binary gender.
- Homosexual: Sexual attraction towards those of the same gender.
- Bisexual: Sexual attraction towards two genders or gender the same or different to yours.
There’s a lot of debating about my provided definition of bisexual. As of now, the definition of bisexuality is very, very subjective. Within the bisexual community (myself included) there are many who are attracted to non-binary individuals and still identify as bisexual.
The term pansexual has not always been around, and many bisexuals identified as bisexual even though the “proper” definition did not fit them as they liked.
Those of us who are attracted to non-binary people have since been fighting for the definition of bisexuality to include us, or at least include the provided definition as another or alternative.
This “wrong” definition of bisexuality was in fact created by bisexuals, not people who aren’t or people who “don’t understand bisexuality” or “are confused about terms.”
- Pansexual: Sexual attraction towards all genders.
- Polysexual: Sexual attraction towards multiple genders.
- Skoliosexual: Sexual attraction towards genderqueer or non-binary people.
- Androsexuality: Sexual attraction towards men or masculinity.
*Depending on the person they may use Androphilia. I’ve heard both used for- Gynesexuality: Sexual attraction towards women or femininity.
*Depending on the person that may use Gynophilia.So, I’m sure most of you are familiar with a similar post that included several icons that had an identity and then a simple definition underneath it. Unfortunately that post was severely problematic. It had exclusive and erasing wording and had several definitions wrong with it.
I decided to create my own with more inclusive language, less erasive language, and proper definitions. (Though definitions can vary from region to region.) These icons are not all of the LGBTQ identities out there.There are limitless identities, and these are just some of the sexual identities that I know of.
Before you say “what about the asexuals?” like so many people before you, you might want to take the time to keep reading before you throw a fit.
This is also not the only one of these I’ll be doing. I’ll be creating more sets. One of which will be for asexual/demisexual/grey-a identities and another will be for gender identities. Stay tuned.
I’m very open to corrections and suggestions as long as they’re not rude.
I feel like there are so many labels and I understand why we have them but I feel like they are so unnecessary and I understand that they are because they are an expectation of who you’re attracted to and what gender you identify as. It’s just so many labels that I’m just like whoa. Why can’t we just label ourselves as different because everyone would have that label. I actually love the concept of that idea. Society and people want us to be a certain way and we are. We are all certainly different and it’s funny because people always TRY to be different and end up acting and looking just like some stereotype or something fact but one label we can all wear is the label society doesn’t want. We are ALL different. No need for other labels.
I hate labels, you guys are humans just like the rest of us, everyone else can fuck off and get over it. You are who you are
Your privilege is showing.
SERIOUSLY, PEOPLE.
The only folks who say “labels are useless” are those who don’t need them, because their identity labels have always been seen as normative.
Do these fucknuggets have any idea what it’s like growing up in a world where straight and cis is the default and then one day you learn a ‘label’ and suddenly your whole existence makes sense? I was seriously struggling with myself and my feelings until the word genderqueer entered my life. I NEED my ‘labels’.
Reblogging for commentary and pretty colours.
I am neither cis nor heterosexual, and I strongly dislike labels. In my ideal world, there would be no need for them.. and I certainly have difficulty finding any I am comfortable with for more than five minutes. But I understand that they can be important for other people, and the need for more people to be familiar with them, because explaining yourself over and over again is tiresome.
(via causticartist)
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I don’t know what this is from, but that’s the best answer to that question.
(Source: paleshadeofnothing, via poupouroi)
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witchnymph:
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slutofbabylon:
The powers that be do not want me to have a good night.
Man, let’s say you’re at a party, yeah? And there are people at the party that prefer cake, and people at the party who prefer pie, so the host serves both. Alright, cool.
So you go in for a slice of pie, when suddenly the host CHARGES over and goes “WOAH WOAH WOAH WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING?”
“I’m having some pie, man, chill.”
“What the hell? I thought you had cake last time.”
“Yeah, I did have cake last time. But I’m not feeling the cake tonight. And this is my favorite kind of pie.”
“Ohhh no. I thought you were a CAKE person and now all of a sudden you’re eating pie on me? You’re confusing me! Make up your mind!”
“What’s the big deal, even? There’s plenty of both for everyone.”
“YOU CAN’T LIKE BOTH CAKE AND PIE. YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE.”
But man, fuck that guy, I’m going to have the pie anyway, who cares if I had cake last week.
And then if that pie is so good that I never want any other dessert for the rest of my life, that doesn’t mean I suddenly never liked that cake that I ate.
Actually this metaphor is kind of dumb. I guess I should just leave it at “fuck you.”
No, it’s sweet. In fact, it’s a lovely springboard for the rest of the sexualities. For instance, asexuality:
You’re enjoying the party - the music, the conversation - but you just don’t feel like eating cake or pie.
Suddenly, the host charges over with some cake he’s sure you’ll love. He knows this cake. It’s not too rich and not too dry. You politely refuse.
The party keeps going until the host comes back with a slice of pie, practically shoving it in your hands. You try to refuse again.
“Oh come on, what do you want?”
“Nothing, I’m fine.”
“Are you on a diet?”
“No, I just don’t eat pie. Or cake.”
“…you had a bad experience with dessert, didn’t you?”
“Excuse me?”
“Forgive me if I’m getting too personal, but it had to be something traumatic. Did someone spike a baked good of whatever construction with a laxative?”
“Fuck no. I just have no desire to eat dessert. I’m sure your pies, cakes, muffins, cookies, waffles, wafers, Nutella sandwiches, what have you…I’m sure they are all lovely. Please, serve them to any and all who would consume them. I’m not one of them. Is that really so hard to comprehend?”
“…you just haven’t found the right one.”
I sort of really love dessert metaphors for sexuality because some of the things people say about sexuality are so ridiculous, but people really only notice them with the metaphors.
Also I love them because I like food and I’m going to eat some dessert now.
the metaphor may begin to break down around demisexuality but what if you’re not really into the whole “eating desserts” thing, in general; like, maybe sweets just ain’t your thing! But your significant other always makes special desserts just for you and they put a lot of effort into them and so of course you eat them and they’re—well, they’re really nice, and so from then on you just really like the desserts they make, but if you go out to a party and they just have random desserts chillaxing you’re always like “eh” “nah” “doesn’t look too appetizing” “[SO] didn’t make ‘em they’re probs not that gr8”
and with pansexuality is like if you like cakes AND pies AND puddings and—just, all desserts, as long as they taste good! Trifles? Yes! Cookies? Yes! Fruit salad? Yes! Ice cream? Yes! But then people are just like “what there are only pies or cakes to choose from WHAT ARE THESE OTHER DESSERTS YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT I DON’T UNDERSTAND U”
#SOME PEOPLE LIKE VANILLA ICE CREAM #SOME PEOPLE LIKE CHOCOLATE ICE CREAM #SOME LIKE BOTH #SOME NEITHER #SOME ARE FANS OF ALL THE ICE CREAM FLAVOURS #SOME ONLY LIKE ICE CREAM ON SPECIAL OCCASIONS #SOME LIKE ICE CREAM WELL ENOUGH BUT DON’T OFTEN GO OUT AND BUY IT #SOME PEOPLE EAT HEAPS OF ICE CREAM OF ALL DIFFERENT BRANDS AND SOME PEOPLE EAT VERY RARELY BUT ALWAYS AT THE SAME STORE #SOMETIMES A PERSON WHO LIKES VANILLA ICE CREAM WILL TRY A PARTICULAR STORE’S CHOCOLATE AND REALLY LIKE IT #SOMETIMES A PERSON WILL FALL SO IN LOVE WITH A CERTAIN STORE’S MINT CHOCOLATE CHIP THEY JUST EAT NOTHING BUT THAT FOR AGES #IT’S OKAY #FUQ OFF
so true.
Food metaphors please both the slutty and fatass parts of me.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m14ns6jKFg1qmv5d1o1_1280.gif)
The powers that be do not want me to have a good night.
Man, let’s say you’re at a party, yeah? And there are people at the party that prefer cake, and people at the party who prefer pie, so the host serves both. Alright, cool.
So you go in for a slice of pie, when suddenly the host CHARGES over and goes “WOAH WOAH WOAH WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING?”
“I’m having some pie, man, chill.”
“What the hell? I thought you had cake last time.”
“Yeah, I did have cake last time. But I’m not feeling the cake tonight. And this is my favorite kind of pie.”
“Ohhh no. I thought you were a CAKE person and now all of a sudden you’re eating pie on me? You’re confusing me! Make up your mind!”
“What’s the big deal, even? There’s plenty of both for everyone.”
“YOU CAN’T LIKE BOTH CAKE AND PIE. YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE.”
But man, fuck that guy, I’m going to have the pie anyway, who cares if I had cake last week.
And then if that pie is so good that I never want any other dessert for the rest of my life, that doesn’t mean I suddenly never liked that cake that I ate.
Actually this metaphor is kind of dumb. I guess I should just leave it at “fuck you.”
No, it’s sweet. In fact, it’s a lovely springboard for the rest of the sexualities. For instance, asexuality:
You’re enjoying the party - the music, the conversation - but you just don’t feel like eating cake or pie.
Suddenly, the host charges over with some cake he’s sure you’ll love. He knows this cake. It’s not too rich and not too dry. You politely refuse.
The party keeps going until the host comes back with a slice of pie, practically shoving it in your hands. You try to refuse again.
“Oh come on, what do you want?”
“Nothing, I’m fine.”
“Are you on a diet?”
“No, I just don’t eat pie. Or cake.”
“…you had a bad experience with dessert, didn’t you?”
“Excuse me?”
“Forgive me if I’m getting too personal, but it had to be something traumatic. Did someone spike a baked good of whatever construction with a laxative?”
“Fuck no. I just have no desire to eat dessert. I’m sure your pies, cakes, muffins, cookies, waffles, wafers, Nutella sandwiches, what have you…I’m sure they are all lovely. Please, serve them to any and all who would consume them. I’m not one of them. Is that really so hard to comprehend?”
“…you just haven’t found the right one.”
I sort of really love dessert metaphors for sexuality because some of the things people say about sexuality are so ridiculous, but people really only notice them with the metaphors.
Also I love them because I like food and I’m going to eat some dessert now.
the metaphor may begin to break down around demisexuality but what if you’re not really into the whole “eating desserts” thing, in general; like, maybe sweets just ain’t your thing! But your significant other always makes special desserts just for you and they put a lot of effort into them and so of course you eat them and they’re—well, they’re really nice, and so from then on you just really like the desserts they make, but if you go out to a party and they just have random desserts chillaxing you’re always like “eh” “nah” “doesn’t look too appetizing” “[SO] didn’t make ‘em they’re probs not that gr8”
and with pansexuality is like if you like cakes AND pies AND puddings and—just, all desserts, as long as they taste good! Trifles? Yes! Cookies? Yes! Fruit salad? Yes! Ice cream? Yes! But then people are just like “what there are only pies or cakes to choose from WHAT ARE THESE OTHER DESSERTS YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT I DON’T UNDERSTAND U”
so true.
Food metaphors please both the slutty and fatass parts of me.
(Source: not-homophobic-but, via howlcoyotecody)
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Pamphlet and content therein belongs to respective owners, only shared because this is awesome.Also this is hanging up in our room.
(via queerhuman)
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A comic about the different types of attraction one might feel. I saw these floating around on tumblr. These were originally taken from a website about asexuality. Although, I think people who are not asexual feel these regularly too. There’s all kinds of attractions for all kinds of people. Enjoy.
I wish I could carry this comic around to explain to people why my aesthetic attraction to certain beautiful men does not make me straight.
ditto. I’d love to show this comic to everyone who casually dismisses asexuals who experience aesthetic/romantic/sensual attraction to the opposite gender as “just confused/afraid of sex and appropriating queerness when [they]’re actually straight.” especially great coming from self-identifying queer folk, totally missing their own hypocrisy.
Now I need one to explain that sexual attraction is different from sex drive.
This is too awesome](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m366elTLrw1qbtg0uo1_1280.jpg)
A comic about the different types of attraction one might feel. I saw these floating around on tumblr. These were originally taken from a website about asexuality. Although, I think people who are not asexual feel these regularly too. There’s all kinds of attractions for all kinds of people. Enjoy.
I wish I could carry this comic around to explain to people why my aesthetic attraction to certain beautiful men does not make me straight.
ditto. I’d love to show this comic to everyone who casually dismisses asexuals who experience aesthetic/romantic/sensual attraction to the opposite gender as “just confused/afraid of sex and appropriating queerness when [they]’re actually straight.” especially great coming from self-identifying queer folk, totally missing their own hypocrisy.
Now I need one to explain that sexual attraction is different from sex drive.
This is too awesome
Queer people do not need to offer excuses or defend their own existence. If one could become queer by simply waking up one morning and deciding to become queer, for a day, for an hour, it wouldn’t change the fact that being queer is just as good, as valid, as worthy, as being straight. Providing straight people with reasons or excuses for our queerness simply confirms their suspicions that our sexuality really is their business and that we need to justify our existence to them. This allows heterosexists to continue to believe there is something superior about heterosexuality, and that being queer is a deviation from some kind of normal or default sexuality. There isn’t and it’s not.
We don’t need to justify ourselves to anyone. We don’t need a reason to be queer. Maybe we were born this way, maybe we weren’t. Maybe sexuality is fluid for some people and not for others. It’s totally irrelevant either way. The message we need to send to heterosexists is not that our sexuality was foisted upon us and that they should be “tolerant” and “understanding”. The message is: our sexuality is perfectly valid and none of your business, we offer you no excuses, and we are never going away.
People don’t necessarily know what they want. That’s okay. Sometimes you don’t know! Even about things as fundamental as sexual orientation, it’s okay to identify as questioning. I think a lot of people feel pressure to be like “I’m a pansexual monogamous dom with a foot fetish!” when the actual answer is “I dunno. I think I might like feet.” You always have a right to be uncertain, to try things, to do something once and decide you hate it and never do it again, to go through phases, to change your mind.
// Why is “Just a Phase” A bad thing?//
Every single day, I see those in the LGBTA+ community getting asked wether their feelings are “just a phase”?
Why is “a phase” such a bad thing?
Why are the feelings that I feel now, rendered unimportant if it has an “end”?
The entire idea that what I feel that is “just a phase” is automatically invalidated, is such a terrible concept.
Does the fact that the duration of this “phase” may not last the length of my life, somehow give you the impression that my feelings at this time are any less real?
FUCK THAT SHIT.
(If anyone more literate and conceive wants to add their thoughts on this, I’d gladly appreciate the input.)
It’s bad because any sexuality that wasn’t heterosexuality would be labelled as simply a phase, a curiosity of young age that you would.. get over at some point, “come to your senses” and live the rest of your life in the “right” sexuality.
I think that with queer activism, this way of thinking has been fought against but I think it has done a lot of damage - now you must be gay/lesbian for life. Anything else is probably still just a phase, you will settle in one of the two eventually. Anyway, it’s something the queer movement has been really fighting for - the recognition that homosexuality is a valid sexuality just like heterosexuality, and now it’s time to fight for all other sexualities being just as valid.. but I think we need to also focus on fighting against this way of thinking, that a sexuality (or gender identity for that matter) is for life.
This phrase has gotten a very negative meaning for sure, but I think people are slowly coming round to the idea that sexuality is a fluid thing, so hopefully we will be able to turn the meaning around, or find a new phrase for it.
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