Yesterday I learned that a friend of mine has started dating a guy with blonde hair. Which really doesn’t make any sense to me, because her last boyfriend had brown hair. When I asked her why she doesn’t find any brunette guys attractive anymore, she told me she thinks either hair color can look good if it’s on the right person. What the fuck? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m totally cool with people being attracted to whichever hair color they want, but pick a side, you know? I think she’s probably just doing this for the attention, or maybe she’s going through a transitional period where she figures out what she really wants. But either way, it’s creeping me out. I wonder if she’s gonna try to have a three-way with a blonde and a brunette or something. I don’t know. She’s never struck me as promiscuous before, but I guess I didn’t know her as well as I thought I did.
Perfect analogy is perfect.
the most valuable lesson I’ve learned this year is that I need this feature in my real life
no.
that’s fucking discriminating.
what discrimination looks like in a typical day of my life (and I have it pretty easy):
- feeling like I can’t be out to most of my straight friends because they would treat me differently
- sitting around listening to my straight family members make jokes and snide comments about queer people and knowing that I will never be able to be fully open with them about who I am
- going to a school where I am surrounded by thousands of straight people who campaigned so obsessively for Mitt Romney this year that I sometimes felt uncomfortable and threatened and hated on my own campus where I spent almost all of my life
- trying to undo the damage of thirteen years of Christian education where my straight teachers and mentors explicitly told us that it was unacceptable to be anything but straight and my straight classmates made sure that was enforced
- having to put up with straight ~allies~ who are ignorant and self-congratulatory and appropriative and who often think that fetishizing queer people/sex/culture counts as activism but who actually do not give a shit about me
what it does not look like:
- a tumblr post by a half-serious queer kid who does not want to deal with that shit anymore
not to be an asshole but, like, I don’t feel sorry for straight people who are alienated by queer people who are bitter toward them. if it pisses you off that much that queer people don’t want to be around you, you’re probably exactly the kind of entitled straight person that makes me want to start an all-queer moon colony. keep walking.
#ask me how much i care about hurting straight people’s feeligs #AWWW I’M SORRY QUEER PEOPLE DON’T LIKE YOU GOOD THING YOU CAN FALL BACK ON EVERYTHING ELSE IN LIFE
#’you being tired of discrimination counts as discrimination’ #that’s a cute false equivalency friend did your mom pick it out for you
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The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You
(via feminist-fuel)
I think this speaks for itself. Accepting a person doesn’t mean you get to put limits on their freedom. You can’t be an ally and want us to stop talking, or labeling, or demanding to be heard.
Acceptance has no exceptions. Period.
“AS LONG AS YOU DON’T USE A WEIRD LABEL”
I have seen far too many people on tumblr start to whine that eight labels for sexuality is going “too far”, when a lot of those people know over 81 times that when it comes to Pokemon, and I’m pretty sure sexuality labels are more important that virtual monsters.
Sexuality and gender identity labels aren’t “frivolous”. And the vast majority of people that use them aren’t trying to be “special”, they’re merely trying to find a word that validates and explains their orientation - something that most people have and take for granted. I don’t care if you don’t want to use labels for yourself, or that you personally think labels are stupid, they aren’t stupid to everyone. And to a lot of people, using those labels help themselves more than it simply helps people understand their orientation. Having an actual word helps validate to themselves on a subconscious level that their orientation is legitimate. It also helps many people unite, and find others who wish the same in a partnership.
So what, is being open-minded and accepting becoming too mainstream here and now all the hipsters are going to the other extreme?
tl;dr: This person is amazing and I love their graphics so much it hurts.
Yes these posters and the commentary too.
Per example, that when an individual states “I’m lesbian” or “I’m gay” people tend to jump to “SoOo! Which of you is the man and which of you is the woman?!” or “Top ooooor bottom!?”. When someone identifies as bisexual the system tends to cry a mix of “You’re doing it for attention! Want a 3some? You’re just straight! Uggg traitor”. Saying one is queer, and being a ciswoman or a cisman, is different than saying one is a lesbian or a gay fellow - it radically refuses to be placed, it defies by refusing to give the listener an easy to follow path of sexual identity. It refuses to be instantly stuck into the mold of “Which of you is the man and which is the woman”. It defies the heteronormative structure and the one cisman one ciswoman concept. Being cis does not mean that one cannot be queer, but it does mean that one as a cis individual must directly acknowledge their privilege and how it alters their relation to queerness. Simply because someone is cis does not mean their relationships fit into the system we are fighting against, and simply because someone is cis does not mean they do not have a right to refuse to apply the relationship structures heteronormativity built to their love lives.
but you cant be queer if you’re cis and heterosexual
- The clothes you wear don’t determine your gender
- The clothes you wear don’t determine your gender
- The clothes you wear don’t determine your gender
- The clothes you wear don’t determine your gender
- The clothes you wear don’t determine your gender
- The clothes you wear don’t determine your gender
- The clothes you wear also don’t determine your sexual orientation
- The only thing that clothes determine is whether or not you are naked.
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maybe I’m just too far immersed in my own culture of sex positivity to fully understand, but when it comes to sexual relationships - particularly teen sexual relationships - where everyone is being safe and everything is consensual, I don’t see what the big deal is.
I get, up to a certain point, why parents would be concerned about their children having sex, etc. - there’s definitely an issue of safety. but that’s just more reason to talk about it, for Christ’s fucking sake!
I’ve heard from my friends and I’ve listened to the way my mom talks to me about sex and we’ve been able to come to a general consensus about one thing. this worry that they have is not about safety. our parents aren’t trying to educate us. they’re shaming us, making us feel as if our sexuality is the problem rather than the society in which we are being raised. they make us feel as if we can’t control ourselves, as if we don’t know what’s best for is, as if our decisions aren’t really our own.
this is not acting within our best interests.
if not safety, then, why are parents so afraid of their children being sexually active? because it cannot be mere fear for safety - if that were really it, more parents would make sure that their children get the facts. that is not the goal of making sure we are never unsupervised with people we could be attracted to.
because - here’s the thing - so what? if two teens have safe, consensual sex, what is the big fucking deal? it’s something that I can’t wrap my head around.
It isn’t dishonest for me to not say things about myself. It isn’t dishonest of me to not mention what kind of music I like, or where I grew up, or my career plans, or the fact that I’m trans*. You aren’t entitled to know that about me, just like you aren’t entitled to know anything else about me. If you assume that I’m cisgender, that’s your issue, just like if you assumed that I only listen to country and were shocked to find out that this isn’t true. Don’t assume shit, don’t act like you’re entitled to know my personal information, and there won’t be problems.
5 real
Yes this. I still need to remind myself of this really. My sexuality and gender identity are important to me and I won’t keep them secret, but I won’t bring it up as soon as I meet you unless it comes up in conversation. I’m not withholding any important information by not going “OH HEY BY THE WAY I AM x GENDER AND x-SEXUAL JUST THOUGHT YOU SHOULD KNOW” out of the blue. Because really, that just sounds stupid in the middle of a conversation.
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